An obituary ending with “this world is a better place without her,” reportedly written by two of a deceased mother’s children, has rocked the Internet, and the story is going viral via Twitter. The son spoke out Wednesday to Daily Mail, revealing the reasoning behind their words.
According to Patch, 80-year-old Kathleen Dehmlow (Schunk) passed away in Minnesota, and the obituary was featured in the Redwood Falls Gazette, as well as Legacy.com. Both entries have since been deleted.
If you only read the first couple of paragraphs in the obituary, it appears normal enough, speaking of when Dehmlow was born, and when she got married and had two children, Gina and Jay….but from there the description becomes shocking.
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Paragraph 5: *airplane flies overhead with a banner reading WELCOME TO HELL MOM* pic.twitter.com/ppV45htrda
— Stu (@RandBallsStu) June 5, 2018
“In 1962 she became pregnant by her husband’s brother Lyle Dehmlow and moved to California,” the obituary continues. “She abandoned her children, Gina and Jay who were then raised by her parents in Clements, Mr. and Mrs. Joseph Schunk.”
Perhaps the most astonishing line was saved for last; “She will not be missed by Gina and Jay, and they understand that this world is a better place without her.”
Kathleen’s son, 58-year-old Jay Dehmalo, expressed that after his mother became pregnant by her brother-in-law, him and his sister, Gina, were forced to live a dysfunctional childhood.
“We wanted to finally get the last word,” Jay told the media outlet. “You could write it all down in a book or turn it into a movie and people wouldn’t believe what we went through.”
Not all family members agree with how the obit was handled. Jay’s sister, Judy, described it as “nasty” to Daily Mail, adding that it “hurt the family tremendously.”
“Not important?” Dehmalo adamantly replied via the publication. “Sure. They have no idea what we went through back then, in the 50’s and 60’s, nobody talked about anything.”
The son described how he and his sister were forced to gather information about their mother as the years went by, and claimed they weren’t aware they had half-siblings until long after the half-siblings were born.
When Kathleen did visit her first-born children, it was rare, according to Jay, who claimed his mother to be “having a great life in California with her other kids.”
The son described feeling as if though he and sister “didn’t even exist,” on the rare occasion that they did see their birth mother.
“We didn’t have so much as a card from her,” Jay said. “I remember she came home twice and on one occasion she was showing pictures of her and her kids playing cards, drinking beers…Gina and I were standing in the room, just standing there and she didn’t even acknowledge us. It’s like we didn’t exist.
Jay and Gina, fueled by their self-described painful memories, eventually decided to leave their home state. “How can you do that to your own children?,” Jay said. “That’s when we knew we had to get the hell out of Minnesota.
[Feature Photo: Legacy.com]